The Redeemed Marriage Podcast

Stop the Crazy Cycle: Love the Way They Want to Be Loved

Newly engaged or decades in? This candid conversation with Rusty and Heather unpacks one of the most practical skills for a healthy marriage: love your spouse the way they want to be loved—not just how love comes naturally to you. Using the Five Love Languages framework (words of affirmation, quality time, acts of service, gifts, and physical touch), they share real-life stories of how needs shift across seasons of life—work changes, parenting, even healing after betrayal—and why sacrificial love breaks the “crazy cycle” of withholding. You’ll learn why men often experience affirmation as respect, how deficits can skew quiz results, and simple daily ways to meet each other’s needs without manipulation or keeping score. Whether you’re dating, newly married, or rebuilding trust, this episode offers clear next steps for connection, communication, and emotional intimacy. Grab a date night, take (or retake) the quiz, and use today’s practical ideas to create more safety, closeness, and fun—one loving choice at a time.
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Expectations: The Silent Marriage Killer

Expectations can make or break a marriage—and they’re usually invisible until they collide. In this honest, light-hearted episode, Rusty and Heather share real stories (toilet seats, toothpaste, yard work, and yes…Downton Abbey) to show how unspoken expectations create conflict and how simple conversations create connection. Whether you’re engaged, newly married, or 29 years in, you’ll learn practical ways to name what you want, listen with grace, and renegotiate roles as life changes. Discover how family of origin shapes your assumptions, why “both” is often the healthiest answer for chores and decision-making, and how everyday choices—like going to bed at the same time—build emotional intimacy. Packed with encouragement and practical tools, this episode helps couples replace resentment with teamwork, boundaries, and clear communication. If you’re ready to stop fighting about the trash and start growing together, press play.
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Protect Your Marriage: Boundary Conversations for Every Couple

This week on The Redeemed Marriage Podcast, Rusty and Heather continue their special “Before the Vows” series—an honest, hope-filled look at what every couple needs to know before (and after) saying "I do."
In this episode, they discuss the crucial topic of boundaries. While it might not feel like the most romantic subject, it’s one of the most important building blocks of a healthy, lasting marriage. Whether a couple is preparing for marriage or has been walking the journey for years, learning to establish and protect boundaries creates safety, unity, and trust.
Rusty and Heather share personal stories and practical wisdom about what it really means to leave and cleave—putting your marriage above extended family ties—and how to navigate relationships with parents and in-laws after the wedding. They also talk about the importance of healthy boundaries with friends of the opposite sex and the intentional effort it takes to protect the private space of a marriage.
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Before the Vows: Marriage Truths We Wish We Knew Sooner

This week on The Redeemed Marriage Podcast, Rusty and Heather kick off a brand-new series called “Before the Vows.” Inspired by their son’s recent engagement, they share timeless truths that every couple—whether dating, engaged, or married for decades—needs to know.
In this episode, they open up about some of the biggest misconceptions couples carry into marriage—like expecting a spouse to “complete you” or assuming they can meet every single need. With plenty of laughter and real-life examples, Rusty and Heather unpack how God is the only one who makes us whole, and how friendships and community play a vital role in a healthy marriage. Their conversation is honest, hopeful, and practical—reminding us that these aren’t just lessons for newlyweds, but truths that continue to shape strong marriages over a lifetime.
Whether you’re preparing for marriage, raising kids who are approaching that stage, or looking for fresh reminders to strengthen your current relationship, this conversation is for you. It’s not just premarital advice—it’s marriage wisdom that applies to every season.
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From Brokenness to Breakthrough: The Path to a Redeemed Marriage

In the powerful conclusion to their four-part series, Rusty and Heather share the road to redemption after the painful confession that nearly destroyed their marriage. They pick up right where the story left off, walking through the raw and honest moments that followed the revelation—when non-negotiables had to be set, boundaries had to be drawn, and a clear line in the sand was established.
They describe the moment of true brokenness that led to real repentance, and how that became the starting point of a long, difficult, but ultimately beautiful journey of healing. This episode highlights what rebuilding trust really looks like, the reality that forgiveness is both a decision and a daily choice, and the intentional work required to lay a new foundation for a marriage.
Rusty and Heather also share the practical and spiritual tools that helped them—counseling, mentorship, marriage intensives, and the balance of navigating personal healing while fighting for their relationship. They reveal how God used their deepest pain to create a ministry that now brings hope and direction to couples around the world.
For anyone who has ever wondered if a marriage can truly be redeemed after betrayal and heartbreak, this episode is living proof that with God, not only is it possible—but a stronger, more beautiful marriage can rise from the ashes.
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From Regret to Repentance: The Turning Point in Our Story

What happens in the critical hours and days after infidelity comes to light? In this pivotal episode of The Redeemed Marriage Podcast, Rusty and Heather Bryant share the raw aftermath of confession—the fear, chaos, and the moment their private pain became a public reality. Rusty reveals the non-negotiable boundaries he set to give their marriage any chance of survival. Heather opens up about her journey from regret and shame to true, God-led brokenness—the turning point that made redemption possible. Together, they walk through the first, crucial steps toward trust, forgiveness, and healing. This episode is essential for anyone navigating the fragile space between betrayal and restoration.
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Before the Fall: The Unseen Steps to Infidelity

An affair doesn’t begin in a single moment of passion—it starts with quiet compromises and subtle shifts of the heart. In this second part of their powerful testimony series, Rusty and Heather Bryant revisit the season before the confession that forever changed their marriage. With raw vulnerability, Heather shares how seemingly harmless “what if” thoughts and a craving for affirmation outside of her marriage slowly eroded her foundation and opened the door to betrayal. Rusty offers perspective from the betrayed spouse, reminding listeners that protecting a marriage begins with guarding your own heart. Together, they reveal how pride, discontentment, and the belief that you “deserve better” can become footholds for the enemy. This episode is essential for anyone seeking to understand the anatomy of infidelity—not to assign blame, but to build stronger boundaries, restore hope, and pursue a deeper walk with God.
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August 23, 2011: The Confession That Changed Our Marriage Forever

In a single night, a confession of infidelity shattered their marriage—and opened the door for God to rewrite their story. On August 23, 2011, Rusty and Heather Bryant’s marriage faced its breaking point. After 15 years together, Heather confessed to an affair—a moment that devastated their relationship and set them on a path they never could have imagined. In this deeply personal episode of The Redeemed Marriage Podcast, they invite listeners into the raw, unfiltered story of that night: the phone call that forced a confession, the hours of fear and uncertainty before the truth came out, and the immediate aftermath that left their future hanging in the balance. Both share their perspectives—Heather recounting what was happening in her heart before confession and Rusty revealing what it was like to hear the words, “I’ve been unfaithful.” More importantly, they explain how God met them in the middle of their devastation, speaking clearly and giving hope when everything felt lost. This episode isn’t about sensational details—it’s about the power of God to restore even the most broken marriages. Whether someone is facing betrayal, walking through a season of hopelessness, or simply in need of encouragement, Rusty and Heather’s story points to the truth that redemption is possible and hope is real.
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Truth or Trash: Debunking Marriage Advice

In this week’s episode of The Redeemed Marriage Podcast, Rusty and Heather take on some classic marriage advice in a lighthearted game of “Truth or Trash.” From the famous “Never go to bed angry” to “Marriage is 50/50,” they dissect some of the most common sayings passed down through generations—sharing their personal perspectives, agreeing, disagreeing, and having a little fun along the way! They’ll dive into the real meaning behind these phrases, debunking myths, and offering fresh insights into what truly makes a marriage work. Whether you agree or disagree with their take, this episode will give you plenty to think about. Plus, there are plenty of laughs, sound effects, and a little talk about nose hair trimming! Tune in for some fun and practical marriage wisdom!
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Still Healing, Still Growing, and Still in Love After 29 Years of Marriage

This week on The Redeemed Marriage Podcast, Rusty and Heather celebrate their 29th wedding anniversary with honest reflections on love, redemption, and real-life struggles after infidelity. In this deeply personal episode, they share how even joyful moments like an anniversary can still stir up pain, triggers, and shame—especially when betrayal is part of your story.
Heather vulnerably opens up about battling feelings of unworthiness and being defined by others. They talk about healing, handling emotional triggers years later, and finding freedom in knowing your true identity in Christ.
Whether you’re in the middle of a marriage crisis or walking years into recovery, this episode offers hope, encouragement, and a real look at what it means to keep growing, loving, and choosing each other every single day.
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