The Redeemed Marriage Podcast

When Shame Whispers: What's Wrong With Me?

We all have those 2 a.m. moments—the questions that swirl in our minds when everything feels quiet but our thoughts are loud. This week, Heather leads the conversation with raw honesty about a question she once wrestled with deeply: “What is wrong with me?”
Before her infidelity, she remembers lying awake wondering why she was even entertaining the idea of another life—another marriage—something “different.” She shares what she wishes she could say to you if she could sit in your thoughts during those restless nights, especially in a world where social media constantly whispers, “You deserve more.”
After betrayal, that same question turned darker: “How could I have done something so horrific?” Heather opens up about the shame, guilt, and self-condemnation that can feel crushing after failure—and how she learned to hear truth instead of lies in those moments.
If you’ve ever questioned your worth, your sanity, or your faith in the middle of the night, this episode is for you. You’re not broken beyond repair. There is hope, even at 2 a.m.
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Can I Ever Trust You Again?

It’s 2 a.m. and your mind won’t stop racing. The question that keeps circling is one that hurts the most: Can I ever really trust you again? In this raw and honest conversation, Rusty and Heather open up about their own sleepless nights after betrayal and the long road toward rebuilding trust.
They talk about what it felt like to question everything—each other, their reality, even God—and how over time, something new and stronger began to take shape. Theirs isn’t a story of quick fixes or easy forgiveness. It’s a story of slow, steady healing, of learning to depend on God when nothing else felt solid, and discovering that trust can grow back deeper than before.
If you’ve ever wondered whether your marriage can truly recover from broken trust, this conversation will meet you right where you are—with honesty, hope, and a reminder that redemption is always possible.
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Can Our Marriage Really Survive This?

What do you do when you’re lying awake at two in the morning, wondering if your marriage can really survive what’s happened? In this episode, Rusty and Heather Bryant open up about the fears, doubts, and late-night questions that come when trust has been broken or when a marriage feels stuck in survival mode. Drawing from their own story of restoration after betrayal, they share the honest emotions of those early, sleepless nights and the hope that grew from believing God wasn’t finished with their marriage. This is a conversation for any couple asking, “Can we really make it?”—a reminder that healing is possible, renewal is real, and your story doesn’t have to end in despair. Whether you’re navigating infidelity, emotional distance, or simply feeling disconnected, this episode will remind you that you’re not alone and that God is still in the business of redeeming marriages.
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Montana Moments: Behind the Scenes of Our Retreat and New Book

Rusty and Heather take you behind the scenes of their recent marriage retreat in breathtaking Montana — where four couples joined for an intimate, unforgettable experience. Between hiking Glacier National Park, sharing gourmet meals, and deep sessions on teamwork, spiritual intimacy, and communication, God showed up in powerful ways.
You’ll hear how community was built through laughter, prayer, and amazing activities together. Rusty and Heather also pull back the curtain on their new book — how it began, the challenges of writing together, and the publishing process.
If you’ve ever wondered what really happens at a Redeemed Marriage Retreat, this episode is your front-row seat — and your invitation to join the next one.
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Rethinking Spiritual Leadership in Marriage: From Pressure to Partnership

In this live episode from beautiful Montana, Rusty and Heather unpack what spiritual leadership in marriage truly looks like—and what it doesn’t. Many couples carry confusion or guilt around who should “lead” spiritually, but God’s design is richer and more personal than cultural stereotypes.
Together, Rusty and Heather share how unrealistic expectations can damage unity, how husbands and wives both play vital spiritual roles, and how understanding your unique sacred pathways—the ways you naturally connect with God—can deepen intimacy and spiritual growth in your marriage.
Whether you’ve struggled to find rhythm in prayer or felt pressure to “get it right,” this conversation will help you replace pressure with purpose and discover a more authentic way to walk with God together.
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Stop the Crazy Cycle: Love the Way They Want to Be Loved

Newly engaged or decades in? This candid conversation with Rusty and Heather unpacks one of the most practical skills for a healthy marriage: love your spouse the way they want to be loved—not just how love comes naturally to you. Using the Five Love Languages framework (words of affirmation, quality time, acts of service, gifts, and physical touch), they share real-life stories of how needs shift across seasons of life—work changes, parenting, even healing after betrayal—and why sacrificial love breaks the “crazy cycle” of withholding. You’ll learn why men often experience affirmation as respect, how deficits can skew quiz results, and simple daily ways to meet each other’s needs without manipulation or keeping score. Whether you’re dating, newly married, or rebuilding trust, this episode offers clear next steps for connection, communication, and emotional intimacy. Grab a date night, take (or retake) the quiz, and use today’s practical ideas to create more safety, closeness, and fun—one loving choice at a time.
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Expectations: The Silent Marriage Killer

Expectations can make or break a marriage—and they’re usually invisible until they collide. In this honest, light-hearted episode, Rusty and Heather share real stories (toilet seats, toothpaste, yard work, and yes…Downton Abbey) to show how unspoken expectations create conflict and how simple conversations create connection. Whether you’re engaged, newly married, or 29 years in, you’ll learn practical ways to name what you want, listen with grace, and renegotiate roles as life changes. Discover how family of origin shapes your assumptions, why “both” is often the healthiest answer for chores and decision-making, and how everyday choices—like going to bed at the same time—build emotional intimacy. Packed with encouragement and practical tools, this episode helps couples replace resentment with teamwork, boundaries, and clear communication. If you’re ready to stop fighting about the trash and start growing together, press play.
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Protect Your Marriage: Boundary Conversations for Every Couple

This week on The Redeemed Marriage Podcast, Rusty and Heather continue their special “Before the Vows” series—an honest, hope-filled look at what every couple needs to know before (and after) saying "I do."
In this episode, they discuss the crucial topic of boundaries. While it might not feel like the most romantic subject, it’s one of the most important building blocks of a healthy, lasting marriage. Whether a couple is preparing for marriage or has been walking the journey for years, learning to establish and protect boundaries creates safety, unity, and trust.
Rusty and Heather share personal stories and practical wisdom about what it really means to leave and cleave—putting your marriage above extended family ties—and how to navigate relationships with parents and in-laws after the wedding. They also talk about the importance of healthy boundaries with friends of the opposite sex and the intentional effort it takes to protect the private space of a marriage.
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Before the Vows: Marriage Truths We Wish We Knew Sooner

This week on The Redeemed Marriage Podcast, Rusty and Heather kick off a brand-new series called “Before the Vows.” Inspired by their son’s recent engagement, they share timeless truths that every couple—whether dating, engaged, or married for decades—needs to know.
In this episode, they open up about some of the biggest misconceptions couples carry into marriage—like expecting a spouse to “complete you” or assuming they can meet every single need. With plenty of laughter and real-life examples, Rusty and Heather unpack how God is the only one who makes us whole, and how friendships and community play a vital role in a healthy marriage. Their conversation is honest, hopeful, and practical—reminding us that these aren’t just lessons for newlyweds, but truths that continue to shape strong marriages over a lifetime.
Whether you’re preparing for marriage, raising kids who are approaching that stage, or looking for fresh reminders to strengthen your current relationship, this conversation is for you. It’s not just premarital advice—it’s marriage wisdom that applies to every season.
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From Brokenness to Breakthrough: The Path to a Redeemed Marriage

In the powerful conclusion to their four-part series, Rusty and Heather share the road to redemption after the painful confession that nearly destroyed their marriage. They pick up right where the story left off, walking through the raw and honest moments that followed the revelation—when non-negotiables had to be set, boundaries had to be drawn, and a clear line in the sand was established.
They describe the moment of true brokenness that led to real repentance, and how that became the starting point of a long, difficult, but ultimately beautiful journey of healing. This episode highlights what rebuilding trust really looks like, the reality that forgiveness is both a decision and a daily choice, and the intentional work required to lay a new foundation for a marriage.
Rusty and Heather also share the practical and spiritual tools that helped them—counseling, mentorship, marriage intensives, and the balance of navigating personal healing while fighting for their relationship. They reveal how God used their deepest pain to create a ministry that now brings hope and direction to couples around the world.
For anyone who has ever wondered if a marriage can truly be redeemed after betrayal and heartbreak, this episode is living proof that with God, not only is it possible—but a stronger, more beautiful marriage can rise from the ashes.
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