The Redeemed Marriage Podcast

The Romance Quiz Every Couple Needs to Take

Do you assume you know what your spouse finds romantic? As Rusty and Heather approach their 29th wedding anniversary, they kick off a brand new series to discover if the definition of romance changes over the years. In this fun and insightful episode, Rusty puts Heather in the hot seat with 10 specific questions to uncover what romance, connection, and intimacy look like for her today. Join them for an honest conversation about planning a romantic getaway, the difference between spontaneous gestures and thoughtful preparation, and why the love languages you spoke while dating might need an update. This discussion is a perfect guide for any couple looking to improve their communication and better understand how to love their spouse well in their current season of life. You’ll be inspired to ask these same questions in your own marriage and might be surprised by what you learn.
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Building Unity: A Guide to Submission and Respect in Marriage

What does it actually mean for a wife to submit to her husband? In this episode of their Summer Shorts series, Rusty and Heather take on one of the most sensitive and misunderstood topics in Christian marriage, based on a fantastic listener question. Using Ephesians 5 as a guide, they break down the concept of biblical submission, moving beyond the idea of a simple command or hierarchy.
Discover why the context of these verses, including the call for husbands to love their wives as Christ loved the church and the principle of mutual submission to one another, is absolutely essential. This isn't about blind obedience or being a doormat; it's about building a strong, unified team. Rusty shares a husband's responsibility to lead in a way that is worthy of respect, while Heather provides a wife's perspective on what it feels like to be led well. They offer practical examples from their own marriage on how they've learned to navigate this dynamic with love and respect.
If you've ever struggled with this passage of scripture or wondered how to apply it to your modern relationship, this conversation will bring clarity, encouragement, and a new perspective on leadership and respect in marriage.
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The "Other Person" in Infidelity: Can You Truly Forgive Them?

Welcome back to Summer Shorts on the Redeemed Marriage Podcast with Rusty and Heather Bryant! In this episode, they look into a deeply personal and common question submitted by a listener: "How am I supposed to forgive the other person involved in my spouse’s infidelity?"
If you're struggling with anger, resentment, and the pain of betrayal caused by your spouse's infidelity, and find it incredibly difficult to forgive the other person involved, this episode is for you. Rusty and Heather offer compassionate insights and practical steps for navigating this challenging aspect of healing after infidelity. Listeners will discover what forgiveness truly means, and importantly, what it doesn't mean, especially in the context of infidelity. They explore the crucial difference between forgiveness and reconciliation, particularly concerning the other person involved, and offer strategies for releasing them from holding power over your emotions and your healing journey. Learn how to process those infuriating thoughts and work towards emotional freedom, understanding the role of faith and God's commands in the journey of forgiveness.
Join Rusty and Heather as they explore this vital aspect of healing from the trauma of infidelity and moving forward in your marriage recovery. This discussion offers hope and guidance for anyone struggling with how to forgive when the hurt runs deep.
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Summer Shorts: Rekindling Intimacy After the Hurt

Hello folks! Summer Shorts are back, and this week Rusty and Heather are tackling a really important and sensitive question about rebuilding intimacy in marriage. 
If your marriage has been rocked by betrayal, broken trust, or significant emotional pain, and you're wondering how to even begin the journey back to physical intimacy, this episode is for you. Rusty and Heather share candidly from their own journey, discussing the crucial role of rebuilding trust and fostering emotional connection first. They explore how vulnerability and open communication in marriage pave the way for healing physical intimacy.
In this conversation, you'll hear about why emotional intimacy truly is the foundation, and how to overcome the hard truth that physical intimacy is often the last area to fully heal. Hear practical steps to reintroduce non-sexual touch, create a safe space for reconnection, and the importance of patience, grace, and understanding in your healing marriage. There is hope to rekindle intimacy and find a path toward a redeemed marriage, even after deep hurt.
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The Unmaking and Remaking of a Man

This Father's Day week, join Rusty and Heather Bryant on the Redeemed Marriage Podcast for a deeply personal and vulnerable conversation about true manhood. Rusty shares candidly how Heather's infidelity and betrayal profoundly impacted his identity as a man, forcing him to confront deep insecurities and redefine strength.
In this special episode, Heather asks Rusty probing questions about:
How betrayal shakes a man's identity.
The permission to feel weakness and grieve.
The journey of forgiveness and modeling it.
Confronting pride in the path to healing.
The current meaning of manhood and how it has evolved.
The legacy he hopes to leave for his sons regarding manhood and marriage.
What strength truly looks like in a redeemed man.
This powerful discussion offers invaluable insights for men navigating their own identity and for women seeking to understand the complexities of the male heart, especially in the context of brokenness, faith, and redemption. Whether you're a husband, father, or simply seeking a deeper understanding of Christian manhood, this episode explores how a relationship with Christ transforms our view of ourselves and our roles. Perfect for anyone reflecting on being a husband and father and what it means to lead with a redeemed heart.
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Vulnerability On Air: From Hulk Costumes to Healing Insecurities

Welcome back to the Redeemed Marriage Podcast! Rusty and Heather are reunited in the studio after a busy few weeks navigating summer schedules and individual commitments. This episode, they discuss fostering connection and communication in marriage by spontaneously answering questions from the popular book "365 Connecting Questions for Couples.”
Get ready for some raw and vulnerable moments as they tackle tough topics like money in marriage, navigating insecurities (even years after infidelity recovery), and what true romance looks like to them. From heartfelt discussions about their relationship challenges and marriage advice on forgiveness, to lighter memories of Halloween costumes and high school dates, this Q&A session offers a candid look into how they keep their bond strong. If you're looking for ways to deepen your own connection, improve marital communication, and hear honest takes on real-life marriage issues, this episode is for you!
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Unstuck: Breaking Free from Past Marriage Pain

Feeling stuck in your marriage after betrayal, infidelity, or past mistakes? Join Rusty and Heather Bryant in this episode of The Redeemed Marriage Podcast as they explore the difficult journey of getting "unstuck." They discuss the impact of being trapped by past hurts, whether you're the one who was betrayed or the one who caused the pain, struggling with guilt and shame.
Discover why it's crucial to make the conscious choice to heal, forgive (yourself and your spouse), and stop replaying painful memories. Rusty and Heather share personal insights and biblical wisdom, including a powerful look at the story of the woman at the well, to illustrate how you can leave your "jar of shame" behind and allow God to rewrite your story. Learn how being stuck not only affects you but also damages your spouse and hinders the healing process for your marriage. This episode offers hope and practical steps for anyone seeking freedom, joy, and restoration in their relationship, even when moving forward seems impossible.
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This is My Story: Moving Beyond Past Hurts and Mistakes for a Redeemed Future

This week on The Redeemed Marriage Podcast, Rusty and Heather unpack the concept of accepting your story—the good, the bad, and the parts you wish you could change. Inspired by a recent sermon from Louie Giglio (Passion City Church) about the significance of self-care and embracing our unique narratives, they explore how true healing begins when we stop fighting our past.
Whether your story includes past mistakes, regrets, trauma, infidelity in marriage, or simply a season you'd rather forget, this episode offers hope. Rusty and Heather share vulnerably from their own experiences with marital infidelity and redemption, discussing how God's grace can take even the most broken pieces and create something beautiful.
Discover why you can't alter the past, but you can allow God to write a new chapter for your future. If you're struggling with shame, past hurts, or wondering how to move forward, learn practical ways to find peace and purpose in your own story. Join Rusty and Heather for an encouraging conversation about finding hope after hurt and the power of a redeemed story.
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Is Your Marriage Missing This Key Ingredient? (Hint: It's FUN!)

Welcome back to the Redeemed Marriage Podcast! In their ongoing "Marriage Killers" series, Rusty and Heather Bryant tackle a surprisingly common yet devastating issue: the slow fade of fun and laughter from a relationship. What happens when the joy, playfulness, and shared enjoyment that once defined your connection start to dwindle? Boredom can set in, routines become ruts, and the spark can dim.
In this episode, discover:
The critical importance of intentionality in cultivating fun and shared enjoyment.
Practical ways to reignite laughter, from shared activities and travel to everyday flirting.
How a shared purpose and open communication can protect your marriage from becoming stale.
The surprising connection between fun, intimacy, and overall marital health (wait 'til you hear about their pastor's Mother's Day sermon!).
Join Rusty and Heather as they explore how to avoid this "marriage killer" and ensure your relationship stays vibrant, connected, and full of laughter. Learn how to make fun a priority, protect your marriage from becoming routine, and rediscover the joy in your partnership.
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The "Me First" Marriage Killer

What happens when "me first" becomes the default setting in a relationship? Selfishness, often disguised as legitimate needs or expectations, can quietly creep in and destroy a marriage from the inside out. Join Rusty and Heather Bryant on the Redeemed Marriage Podcast for the latest episode in their "Marriage Killers" series as they tackle this common but devastating issue. They get brutally honest about the subtle (and not-so-subtle) ways selfishness manifests – from unrealistic expectations and entitlement ("make me happy!") to poor communication and a lack of genuine sacrifice. Heather shares her personal struggles and vulnerability with this very issue, revealing how focusing solely on your own happiness can lead to marital breakdown and hurt. Discover why wanting your spouse to fulfill your desires isn't enough, and how this mindset can erode trust and intimacy.. Learn why shifting focus from receiving to giving, practicing true selflessness, and recognizing the importance of serving your partner are crucial steps toward building a healthier, stronger, and truly redeemed marriage, even when it feels difficult.
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